MUMMA'S ALWAYS RIGHT

As a kid, you have this strange love/hate relationship with with your parents.  Loving them, missing them, hating them when you couldn't have your friends over or stay up late.  I find it funny how the things my Mother used to say to me as a kid make so much sense to me as an adult now. 

One thing I've really noticed lately is the expression 'just be yourself, they will love you for who you are'.  When I was younger I'd think 'what does that even mean Mum?! I don't know who tf I am?!'  And of course now, I get it.

I've been looking around at my life lately, appreciating.  Especially the people.  I have now, a better circle of incredible humans than I've ever had before.  They're not all my best friends, some may just be acquaintances or a mutual friend, but I'm noticing a trend as my friendship circle grows it's organic layers.  Everyone in my life is a fuggin decent and caring human being.  Now the mindset developer in me is like 'uhhh... where did all these legends come from?' I started thinking about how I became connected with these people.  What had I done to be so blessed.

The truth is, I stopped 'trying' and just started 'being'. To be honest this wasn't really a conscious decision.  I stopped giving fucks where fucks shouldn't be given.  I think I sort of hit rock bottom with a few shitty friendships and relationships and just said 'I really can't be bothered anymore'.  I just started being unapologetically me.  Honest, confrontational, ridiculous, loud, empathetic, moody, impatient, caring, generous.  I stopped worrying about what others would think or say and started focusing on 'would I be my friend? What would I think of me if I met myself today?' To be honest, I thought I was pretty damn rad. And although it took me a few years of overcoming difficult times and nourishing my garden on confidence, I just started rolling with who I was.

I've learned now that the right kinds of people will love you for exactly who you are. They will forgive you when you over react about something dumb, they won't judge you when you're an embarrassing drunk, they'll leave you alone when you want to chill all day on the couch and just be a slob.  Learn to be OK with exactly who you are.  It won't happen overnight, be patient with yourself.  Once you get there you'll wish you had listened to yo' mumma way back when, and you'll be surrounded by a plethora of amazing humans.  You got this.

'How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you' -Rupi Kaur